If there’s total love amidst we human being, most of the challenges we face today would be eluded but because our love to one another is hindered, it’s difficult for nature itself to be free. From relationship angle, many people in it believes the love should be one sided (the love should be coming from the opposite sex) which has been the core complaints from sudden relationship break-ups. At some point, spouses forget that both of them has greater and equal role to play in relationships for a successful outcome.
From my personal definition of relationship, “it’s a hospital where two opposite sex patients are admitted in the same room, suffering from life long illnesses with each others choice of comforting, consoling and helping out in both daily activities. In entering a relationship/marriage, it’s a choice you made which should not be forced, mandated but a personal one. The choice to love him/her should be what you have accepted since the beginning of your togetherness irrespective of how different or changed you spouse is at this present time.
Like what I do say to people anywhere I’m opportuned to speak, it’s only God that doesn’t change but we human being are prone to changes anytine. For a successful relationship, you need to be sensitive and it’s your duty to pray for your spouse without ceasing because in the process, you’re doing yourself some good. Many times now, I hear and read about how some men abuse their women. I’ve received some few mails about it requesting for my opinion. Well, it’s an irresponsible act which should be ban and to those whom are victims of this barbaric act, they should please excuse themselves from that home till everything is under care and control because “you need to stay alive”. Don’t keep waiting for your spouse to keep loving you before you return yours, both of you are responsible to love and care for each other irrespective of the colour, race, she, height, language etc
Note, there’s no human that is not beastful but in it, lies a true beauty that it’s only love that can reveal it.
Are you challenged right now?, Do you love your spouse back?, Are you not too rigid, dogmatic, temperamental to your spouse?, Are you even sensitive and compassionate in response to your spouse?. These and many more are questions you need to ask yourself. Though, I’m not condemning divorce but is it the right solution to your problems? You can send your private messages and questions to my mail firstname.lastname@example.org or drop your comment here. It’s a big topic and more points would be raised. Olusegun olukoya is my name.